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Think about that for a minute and you will realize how true the statement is. This is the basic premise of the positive discipline concept.
Once we as parents recognize that inherently our kids are not bad, they are just behaving badly, the rest of it will slowly fall in place.
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Try not to launch into a lecture. If possible use examples and recollections from past behavior. When you hit someone, it hurts the same way.
Change the scene — prevent the misbehavior from being repeated Prevention is better than cure. That phrase is cliched, for a reason.
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When they went to the backyard, she snapped out of it and was excited to see the birdies and squirrels. And that day it was really easy to brush her teeth. These days, we spend a few minutes every morning to help Lady want casual sex Braselton make the transition, but the time is well spent, since it makes the rest of the morning go much smoother.
Set clear expectations and boundaries, and be consistent Kids have a way with finding loopholes and pushing boundaries. Our first attempt to help our daughter make the transition from sleep to waking easier by relaxing the rule that you go straight from bed to the bathroom almost backfired.
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As usual, my daughter walked out of the bathroom with the lights still on. I have adopted this with all my heart now — anytime I remember, I just use Meet woman for sex in Red creek New York single word said in the tone of a friendly reminder, and most of the times, it works.
I have also used the question technique, which has worked pretty well so far. Similarly, stating facts helps. Work together to come up with a mutually-agreeable solution problem solving This is what I will be personally focusing on this week.
I have tried this a couple of times and I am convinced about how effective this technique can be. A lot of our discipline related discussion these days happen in the car during commutes, and so I will try a tweaked, travel-friendly version of this for any issues that pop up during the week.
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For instance, if my daughter does not finish her dinner on time, she does not get to watch TV. Most experts say, it is better not to use these made-up consequences which are actually punishments in disguise and to let natural consequences take over, which in this case would be to let her go to bed hungry.
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Frankly though, I am not there. The over-protective control freak part of me steps in way before my daughter gets to face any natural consequences.
This is something I need to work on in the future, but if some of you are ready to take it on, go for it! I would love to hear your stories about how it worked. So there Beautiful women seeking sex tonight Phenix City have it — 10 ways you can handle tough situations using positive discipline.
Seriously, after reading this, would you ever want to try a traditional, punitive, discipline technique? Is it really working? Which of your current techniques do you need to keep? Which are the things you need to let go? What new tricks can you try? It may work for you, it may not. And as usual, put it in Lesbian dating Raphine Virginia to add a level of ability.
You can scribble it on a piece of paper, a journal, on your blog, your facebook update or in the comments section below — the actual medium does not matter. The Ongoing Action Plan for Fine Parents For the rest of the week, catch yourself when you start to dole out punishment and question if that will really help in the long run.
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Ask yourself, if you are not around to keep an eye on them, and they are sure that you will never find out, will the punishment still keep them from wanting to repeat the incriminating act?
And then, focus on at least one tip and try it out as your new discipline technique. Important Note of Caution: Expect some setbacks. Both you are your kids are used to a certain style of discipline — when you change that and adopt positive discipline instead, your kids will push you, and you may not be well equipped to handle the new situation with your new skills.
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